It’s SO exciting to be out on your own! “Adulting” is kind of terrifying, but also kind of awesome. You get to both settle into all the while still finding your place in your professional life, branch out and do all the things you could only dream of doing when you were still a teenager and just take the time to figure out who you really want to be. As you attempt to balance all of that, you are also likely hoping to find a romantic partner and that can be both exciting and daunting. We want to help you keep your sanity in the dating world while you work to find out what you like and want in a romantic partner. Our first, and most important, tip is this: Don’t put pressure on yourself to find “the one,” and take your time- as we have stated many times to each other and on the blog- just date around and take your time!
Guide To Dating In Your Twenties
Dating in your 20s can be, and often is, simply about finding out what you like and don’t like. For instance, maybe you love dogs (like we do) and decide that disliking them is a dealbreaker, maybe they go to church on Sundays and you like to go to bottomless brunch instead. Maybe you work 12 hours a day trying to move up the ladder and they are content to stay at the position at which they currently are at, which turns you off of them. These are all things that you learn as you date, and they can help you decide – “Hey, I really don’t want someone who works as hard as I do, I appreciate the balance that brings to my life.” A date could even help you discover that you actually like avocado, and you would never have tried it if your date hadn’t ordered it for you to share! These are just a couple of examples of things you can learn about yourself while you’re dating in your 20s.
Put simply, what we’re saying is that every date is not the Super Bowl, so take the pressure off of yourself to make it to the end zone every time you get the ball (or go on a date). At this stage in life you are in pre-season: you are simply learning the players and identifying the strengths and weaknesses of yourself and your dates. You are discovering new things about yourself and expanding your horizons. Check out our blog about being single and dating around for some more details on that and why exactly we are such proponents of just dating around! Another important suggestion we have for you is to stay open to exploring with your dates. And, most of all, have fun while you’re dating around! Keep it light and go out on dates knowing that you are simply learning about yourself and others in the process. For more dating advice from other women in their 20s, check out this article.
Hopefully this advice will guide you through the dating world and help you make sense of dating in your 20s. If there are any other questions that you have about revolutionizing your dating life, let us know and we’ll do our best to answer them in another post!